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Love on the net and on the phone – is it serious?

The Internet and increasingly, the mobile internet, plays an important part in our social lives. Anytime, anywhere, mobile Internet users deal all sorts of things. Naturally enough a  smartphone will  allow you to talk with friends but you can also shop, window shop, send flowers, pay bills, book tickets as well as work and study. As it concerns almost every aspect of our lives is it possible to fall in love just by talking on phone or interacting over the internet and create a real relationship? Judging by the plethora of dating sites and applications, people all over the world are trying to find out!

And with some success if we are to believe the claims. A growing number of young people admit they met someone special via the internet, a smartphone application, on a forum or on an online dating site. For someone texting and chatting is enough to fall in love with other person and to start a relationship. Other people will need more time, a lot of conversation, phone calls, texts and messages

As mentioned above there are plenty of websites and phone applications which allow people to meet. Such as date-me, badoo, SpeedDate, FlirtMaps, Planet Romeo, Dating DNA, Skout, AYI – Are You Interested?. Usually these applications show not only profiles of other users, their interests, hobbies, descriptions but also, (and this is where the immediacy of the mobile internet comes into play), their current whereabouts on a map, whether they are available and if they are willing to meet right there and then.

There is also another interesting app Tinder, in which users mark other users – they need to decide if they like them or not. If there is a “link”, that is to say if the two people are attracted to each other, Tinder will introduce them, and then they can meet and get to know each other. Tinder is linked with Facebook which is nominative so relationships may be treated a little more seriously.

Other applications concentrate on letting users know if there is a possibility to have fun in a place where they are planning to be it pub, club or café. Cameras which are able to distinguish the faces of men and women scan the customers as they go in, so a person who is heading there can easily check whether a place is busy or slow and what the male/female ration is likely to be.

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Talking of gender, it seems that women are more willing to be attracted by someone they met through  the media. Because women are more willing to fall in love rapidly, to have romantic feelings, they may feel an attachment with someone very fast. It is easier to impress a woman just by talking to her. That’s why a simple phone contact could be enough. But being attracted to someone is not falling in love with someone over the phone or internet, because in fact, we do not know the person ‘at the other end of the line’ and users need to be very prudent.

This is because it is extremely easy to pretend to be someone different than in real life. There are a lot of situations where people have created fictitious profiles, with false information and even illustrated with someone else’s photos. People who do this can turn out to be very dangerous. But if it is so risky why is it becoming more and more popular to manage one’s love life digitally?

First of all because digital dating can make us feel more excited. It can improve our self-esteem. We may become more courageous, or we can just have some fun, after all meeting new people is always exciting.

Also using phone and internet for dating is so much more convenient and rapid than the more traditional way, because even if the date ends in failure, no one will ever know of the rejection and the next date will soon come along.

Searching for love in the internet and by phone is actually ‘ a sign of the times’. We are isolating ourselves from a real world and we have been given the perfect tools to do that. It gives us more opportunities and possibilities to meet someone but on the other hand it makes our social relations poorer.

Furthermore we have less and less time for friends and for meeting new people in other contexts. With the phone and mobile internet we can actually be on a date during work, when we are in a car or when we are having dinner with family. Because of the  internet and phones we can do many things at the same time.

Discussion about the advantages and disadvantages of searching for love this way are in fact endless. It has as many opponents as followers. Everything depends on how an individual approaches the issue. We can meet the love of our lives in a supermarket while we are shopping but not if in fact we are shopping on the internet and having everything delivered?!That’s why we need to be discerning about the possibilities which new technology is bringing to us and we need to be careful and use it wisely.

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2 réponses à “Love on the net and on the phone – is it serious?”

  1. In my oppinion, looking for love on the Internet is still really dangerous. I know that is very modern way to get to know new people but I would rather stay sceptical in this topic. There are a lot of strange and dangerous people on the net who are looking for naive people.
    But on the other hand looking for love on the Internet can be very helpful for sexual minorities. There is a huge number of applications on the market which help them find each other.

  2. I disagree with Magdalena. Of course, it can be dangerous to look for love on the internet. But in real life too. You never know if the person you have just met is a psycopath or not.
    I think that, on the contrary, looking for love on the internet can be very helpful for people because, nowadays, we don’t go out very much. We don’t have many opportunities to meet new people. We go to school/work then go back home and watch tv or meet friends we already know. I’m not saying this is good : I’m saying this is a fact. If we add the fact that people are becoming more and more shy and that they feel safer behind their computer screen,we can understand the great success of all those love app on the internet.

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